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C\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng<\/span> T\u0103ng gi\u00e0<\/span> m\u1edbi th\u00e0nh l\u1eadp<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0i bao g\u1ed3m<\/span> c\u1ea3 nam v\u00e0 n\u1eef \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb m\u1ecdi th\u00e0nh ph\u1ea7n<\/span> x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/span>, nh\u1eefng th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean trong c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng<\/span> \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t l\u1edbn v\u1ec1 nhi\u1ec1u ph\u01b0\u01a1ng di\u1ec7n<\/span> v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t sinh nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u1edbi c\u00e1i th\u1ea5y xuy\u00ean su\u1ed1t, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> \u0111\u00e3 cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung nh\u1eefng b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc qu\u00ed b\u00e1u \u0111\u1ec3 ng\u0103n ng\u1eeba<\/span> v\u00e0 h\u00f3a gi\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn<\/span> x\u1ea3y ra gi\u1eefa h\u1ecd. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> nh\u1eafm \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eed<\/span> xu\u1ea5t gia<\/span>, nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0i c\u0169ng \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng<\/span> c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3<\/span> cho nh\u1eefng c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng<\/span> x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/span> kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb<\/span> cho \u0111\u1ebfn<\/span> ng\u00e0y nay. Sau \u0111\u00e2y, ch\u00fang ta<\/span> l\u1ea7n l\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y v\u00e0 ph\u00e2n t\u00edch nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi d\u1ea1y c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0i.

N\u0103m S\u1ef1 Kh\u00e9o L\u00e9o Trong Vi\u1ec7c Trao \u0110\u1ed5i<\/span><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi d\u1ea1y c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o trong c\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/span> nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span> \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span> gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch<\/span> r\u00e0nh m\u1ea1ch<\/span>. (1)<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> d\u1ea1y c\u00f3 n\u0103m s\u1ef1 kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o trong giao ti\u1ebfp \u0111em \u0111\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/span>. Theo ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span>, kh\u00f4ng tu\u00e2n theo<\/span> n\u0103m c\u00e1ch x\u1eed s\u1ef1<\/span> n\u00e0y s\u1ebd \u0111em \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3<\/span> ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c<\/span> v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1ng \u00e2n h\u1eadn<\/span> \u2013 v\u00e0 h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i s\u1ebd g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/span> t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe. Sau \u0111\u00e2y ch\u00fang ta<\/span> kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t n\u0103m ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> m\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> v\u00e0 ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span> coi nh\u01b0 thi\u1ebft y\u1ebfu trong vi\u1ec7c h\u00f3a gi\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span> trong \u0111\u1eddi<\/span> s\u1ed1ng h\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y<\/span>.

1. N\u00eau V\u1ea5n \u0110\u1ec1<\/span> \u0110\u00fang Th\u1eddi<\/b>
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\u0110\u00fang th\u1eddi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n<\/span> quan tr\u1ecdng trong vi\u1ec7c truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t<\/span> c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span>. Ng\u00e0i t\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u201cng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i \u0111\u00fang<\/span> th\u1eddi\u201d v\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh<\/span> r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i hay th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng<\/span> trong cu\u1ed9c trao \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> t\u00f9y thu\u1ed9c<\/span> r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn v\u00e0o th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m. (2) Theo ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span>, \u0111\u00fang th\u1eddi l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n<\/span> thi\u1ebft y\u1ebfu trong vi\u1ec7c h\u00f3a gi\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn<\/span> gi\u1eefa ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. <\/p>\n

V\u1edbi nh\u1eefng b\u1eb1ng ch\u1ee9ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ghi l\u1ea1i, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean trong l\u1ecbch s\u1eed<\/span> lo\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/span> nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh<\/span> s\u1ef1 quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00fang th\u1eddi trong l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span>. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 v\u00e0o th\u1ebf k\u1ef7 th\u1ee9 s\u00e1u tr\u01b0\u1edbc T\u00e2y l\u1ecbch. T\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span> gia Hy l\u1ea1p ti\u1ec1n Socrate l\u00e0 Protagoras \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn kh\u00e1i ni\u1ec7m n\u1ea7y l\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean trong l\u1ecbch s\u1eed<\/span> T\u00e2y ph\u01b0\u01a1ng<\/span> v\u00e0o th\u1ebf k\u1ef7 th\u1ee9 t\u01b0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc T\u00e2y l\u1ecbch.<\/p>\n

Kh\u00e1i ni\u1ec7m \u201cn\u00f3i \u0111\u00fang th\u1eddi\u201d c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> mang m\u1ed9t \u00fd ngh\u0129a<\/span> r\u1ed9ng r\u00e3i<\/span>. \u0110i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n ch\u00fa \u00fd \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean l\u00e0 tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i<\/span> tinh th\u1ea7n<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe. Cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i gi\u1eefa \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> v\u00e0 b\u00e0 Gotami, ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee9a con duy nh\u1ea5t<\/span> ch\u1ebft khi c\u00f2n nh\u1ecf, ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf<\/span> s\u1ef1 quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a t\u00e1c nh\u00e2n<\/span> n\u1ea7y. (3) <\/p>\n

Gotami \u00f4m \u0111\u1ee9a con \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft \u0111\u1ebfn cho nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ecb th\u1ea7y thu\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ec3 mong \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ee9u, nh\u01b0ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c th\u1ea7y thu\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ec1u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi<\/span> r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u1ee9a b\u00e9 \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft, kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ee9u s\u1ed1ng<\/span> \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Qu\u00e1 th\u1ea5t<\/span> v\u1ecdng v\u00e0 \u0111au bu\u1ed3n, b\u00e0 \u00f4m con \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1ed7 \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span>, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 \u201cv\u1ecb th\u1ea7y v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i nh\u1ea5t,\u201d c\u1ea7u kh\u1ea9n<\/span> ng\u00e0i c\u1ee9u s\u1ed1ng<\/span> \u0111\u1ee9a b\u00e9. <\/p>\n

Th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn<\/span> kh\u00f4ng c\u00f9ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i ngay v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt<\/span>. Ng\u00e0i b\u1ea3o b\u00e0 \u0111i t\u00ecm m\u1ed9t n\u1eafm<\/span> h\u1ea1t c\u1ea3i \u1edf nh\u00e0 n\u00e0o ch\u01b0a t\u1eebng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ebft. V\u00ec bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng b\u00e0 s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/span> v\u00e0 v\u00e0 \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn<\/span> khi nghe s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt<\/span>, ng\u00e0i \u0111\u1ee3i \u0111\u00fang l\u00fac<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i cho b\u00e0 v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt<\/span> kh\u00f4ng vui<\/span> r\u1eb1ng c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft l\u00e0 ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn<\/span> cho m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/span>, kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi<\/span>, kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i. V\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00fap b\u00e0 gi\u1ea3m \u0111i n\u1ed7i \u0111au v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ebfn<\/span> tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7<\/span>.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd<\/span> x\u00e1c nh\u1eadn<\/span> r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang l\u00fac<\/span> kh\u00f4ng vui<\/span> \u00edt mu\u1ed1n l\u1eafng nghe. M\u1ed9t tr\u1ebb v\u1ecb th\u00e0nh ni\u00ean<\/span> khi mang v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t gi\u1ea5y b\u00e1o \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u1ea5p c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3n kh\u00e1ng m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t tr\u01b0\u1edbc l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean<\/span> c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9<\/span> r\u1eb1ng h\u00e3y c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u00e1 h\u01a1n trong k\u1ef3 h\u1ecdc t\u1edbi. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 hay ch\u1ed3ng v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 sau m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c ch\u1ea1m tr\u00e1n kh\u00f4ng vui<\/span> v\u1edbi c\u1ea5p tr\u00ean c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi cau c\u00f3<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia nh\u1ee9c nh\u1ed1i kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu h\u01a1n. Trao \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe \u1edf trong tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i<\/span> vui v\u1ebb<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111em l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/span> h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i<\/span> v\u1ec1 th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u1ec3 v\u00e0o nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc \u0111\u00fang th\u1eddi. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eed<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0i cho m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi mu\u1ed1n nghe Ph\u00e1p<\/span> \u0111ang \u0111\u00f3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0103n tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ng\u00e0i thuy\u1ebft Ph\u00e1p<\/span> cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3. (4) <\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng thuy\u1ebft Ph\u00e1p<\/span> cho m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang \u0111\u00f3i s\u1ebd \u0111em l\u1ea1i \u00edt l\u1ee3i l\u1ea1c<\/span> h\u01a1n. V\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi n\u00f3i Ph\u00e1p cho m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eed<\/span> xu\u1ea5t gia<\/span>, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> \u0111\u00e3 h\u1ecfi han v\u1ec1 ch\u1ee9ng b\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a v\u1ecb \u0111\u00f3 \u0111ang mang. (5) Ch\u00fang ta<\/span> th\u1ea5y r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng<\/span> r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n<\/span> th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t tinh th\u1ea7n<\/span> kho\u1ebb m\u1ea1nh; do \u0111\u00f3 \u201c\u0111\u00fang th\u1eddi\u201d c\u0169ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe c\u00f3 t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng<\/span> c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 th\u00edch h\u1ee3p<\/span>.<\/p>\n

M\u1ee5c ti\u00eau<\/span> l\u00e0 \u0111em l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 vui v\u1ebb<\/span> v\u00e0 l\u1ee3i \u00edch<\/span> cho c\u1ea3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i. Ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i th\u1eddi<\/span> \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u00edch h\u1ee3p<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t<\/span> kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 t\u00ecm c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng<\/span> l\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe. S\u1ef1 hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n<\/span> c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u0103ng \u00edch k\u1ef7<\/span> v\u00e0 l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng<\/span> \u0111i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i l\u1eddi d\u1ea1y c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span>. Ng\u00e0i l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i n\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn b\u1eb1ng t\u00e2m t\u1eeb<\/span> bi, ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n<\/span> kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u01a1 l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng<\/span>.<\/p>\n

Ch\u1ecdn th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u00edch h\u1ee3p<\/span> nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh<\/span> r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn trong vi\u1ec7c h\u00f3a gi\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span> trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n

2. Ch\u1ec9 \u0110\u1ec1 C\u1eadp \u0110\u1ebfn S\u1ef1 Ki\u1ec7n<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> n\u00f3i th\u00eam r\u1eb1ng tr\u00e1nh nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi bu\u1ed9c t\u1ed9i<\/span> sai l\u1ea7m<\/span> l\u00e0 b\u01b0\u1edbc th\u1ee9 hai trong vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m<\/span> t\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt<\/span> nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn<\/span> trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Theo ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span>, ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i c\u1ea7n lu\u00f4n t\u00e2m ni\u1ec7m<\/span>: \u201cT\u00f4i s\u1ebd n\u00f3i \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra, kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec kh\u00f4ng x\u1ea3y ra.\u201d (6) <\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o n\u00e0y c\u0169ng bao g\u1ed3m<\/span> vi\u1ec7c tr\u00e1nh c\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i\u1ec7u, ph\u00f3ng \u0111\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span> v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu k\u00e9m<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi k\u1ebft t\u1ed9i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1eadt kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

D\u01b0\u1edbi nh\u00e3n quan t\u00e2m<\/span> l\u00fd h\u1ecdc, ch\u00fang ta<\/span> th\u1ed5i ph\u1ed3ng nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu k\u00e9m<\/span> hay l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00ednh y\u1ebfu<\/span> l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00f4i k\u00e9o s\u1ef1 ch\u00fa \u00fd c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3, ho\u1eb7c b\u00e0y t\u1ecf s\u1ef1 t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta<\/span>. \u0110\u1ec3 nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh<\/span> s\u1ef1 s\u0103n s\u00f3c<\/span> th\u00edch h\u1ee3p<\/span> cho m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a con, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng: \u201cCon b\u1ecb c\u1ea3m<\/span> c\u00fam do anh kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eafp k\u1ef9 cho n\u00f3.\u201d <\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ec3 tr\u00fat gi\u1eadn, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 \u0111\u0169a: \u201cC\u00f4 l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n ng\u1edb ng\u1ea9n.\u201d Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p<\/span> \u0111\u1ea7u, \u0111i\u1ec1u th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 x\u1ea3y ra l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb b\u1ecb b\u1ecbnh c\u00fam; l\u00fd do<\/span> ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 \u0111\u01b0a ra ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 g\u00e1n cho<\/span>. Tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p<\/span> th\u1ee9 hai, c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u n\u00f3i chung chung, m\u1ed9t lu\u1eadn \u0111i\u1ec7u chung chung v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c ri\u00eang l\u1ebd. C\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u n\u00f3i nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi c\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i\u1ec7u. C\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i \u0111\u00fang<\/span> ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c<\/span> \u201c\u0111i\u1ec1u x\u1ea3y ra.\u201d<\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 c\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i\u1ec7u th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n<\/span> d\u01b0\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c<\/span> trong \u0111\u1eddi<\/span> s\u1ed1ng h\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y<\/span>. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t chi\u1ebfc d\u0129a tu\u1ed9t kh\u1ecfi tay ng\u01b0\u1eddi con g\u00e1i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 la l\u00ean: \u201cM\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i g\u00ec.\u201d M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ecdc k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 x\u00e9t nghi\u1ec7m s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe<\/span> h\u1eb1ng n\u0103m c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i: \u201c\u00d4ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu t\u1eadp th\u1ec3 d\u1ee5c<\/span>. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do<\/span> l\u01b0\u1ee3ng m\u1edf trong m\u00e1u t\u0103ng cao.\u201d T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> n\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi th\u1ed5i ph\u1ed3ng, c\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111i\u1ec7u, ho\u1eb7c g\u00e1n th\u00eam. <\/p>\n

C\u00e1ch ph\u00e1t ng\u00f4n n\u00e0y <\/span>m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 v\u1ebb xoa d\u1ecbu<\/span> cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i \u2013 m\u1eb7c d\u00f9 kh\u00f4ng xoa d\u1ecbu<\/span> ch\u00fat n\u00e0o cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y<\/span> s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng<\/span> trong t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh nh\u1eb9 b\u1edbt b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng<\/span> l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng<\/span>. Nh\u01b0ng h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m t\u0103ng th\u00eam ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/span> \u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u1ea1nh<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe cho r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi k\u1ebft t\u1ed9i v\u00f4 c\u0103n c\u1ee9<\/span> hay l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi l\u0103ng m\u1ea1. Ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/span> \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ef1 kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n trong vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh<\/span> gi\u1eefa ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> khuy\u00ean ch\u1ec9 n\u00ean n\u00eau ra s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n<\/span>, kh\u00f4ng th\u00eam v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n<\/span> nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch<\/span> theo \u00fd ri\u00eang. Khi \u0111\u00f3 ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh<\/span> s\u1ebd thu\u1eadn l\u1ee3i<\/span> h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 h\u00f3a gi\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn<\/span> m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch th\u00e2n t\u00ecnh. \u0110i\u1ec1u x\u1ea3y ra \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra. \u0110\u1ec3 c\u1ee9u v\u00e3n<\/span> m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eebng \u0111\u1ec3 cho s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span> l\u1ea1i x\u1ea3y ra l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n<\/span> kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n<\/span> \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> n\u00f3i: \u201cCho d\u00f9 s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0 th\u1eadt, ta kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt<\/span> \u0111\u00f3 khi kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd<\/span>.\u201d (7) <\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt<\/span> n\u00f3i ra kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch<\/span> \u00edch l\u1ee3i<\/span> n\u00e0o, n\u00f3i ra c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 v\u00f4 \u00edch<\/span>. \u0110\u1ec3 \u0111em l\u1ea1i k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c<\/span> trong th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9<\/span> v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi, ch\u00fang ta<\/span> n\u00ean ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n<\/span>, kh\u00f4ng g\u00e1n gh\u00e9p v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

3. N\u00f3i L\u1eddi \u00d4n Nhu<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

D\u00f9ng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> \u00f4n nhu, theo ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span>, l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh quan tr\u1ecdng kh\u00e1c trong vi\u1ec7c truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t<\/span> c\u00f3 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ea3i t\u1ecfa nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span>. Theo ng\u00e0i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i n\u00ean c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9<\/span> d\u1ee9t kho\u00e1t<\/span> trong vi\u1ec7c s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng<\/span> ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef<\/span>: \u201cT\u00f4i nguy\u1ec7n n\u00f3i l\u1eddi \u00f4n nhu, kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i l\u1eddi l\u1ed7 m\u00e3ng, th\u00f4 b\u1ea1o<\/span>.\u201d Tr\u00e1nh s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng<\/span> l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> l\u1ed7 m\u00e3ng c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong n\u0103m gi\u1edbi<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi Ph\u1eadt t\u1eed<\/span> t\u1ea1i gia<\/span>. S\u1ef1 nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh<\/span> n\u00e0y <\/span>n\u00f3i l\u00ean vai tr\u00f2<\/span> quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> \u00f4n nhu trong m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7<\/span> h\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cN\u00f3i l\u1eddi \u00f4n nhu\u201d \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y c\u0169ng chuy\u00ean ch\u1edf m\u1ed9t \u00fd ngh\u0129a<\/span> r\u1ed9ng r\u00e3i<\/span>. N\u00f3 bao g\u1ed3m<\/span> m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn<\/span> ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef<\/span>: l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span>, c\u00e2u n\u00f3i, gi\u1ecdng n\u00f3i, c\u00e1ch n\u00f3i. <\/p>\n

Theo \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span>, khi ch\u00fang ta<\/span> n\u00f3i l\u1eddi th\u00f4 b\u1ea1o<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn<\/span>, s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 minh<\/span> v\u00e0 s\u00e2n h\u1eadn<\/span> th\u1ed1ng tr\u1ecb<\/span> t\u00e2m th\u1ee9c<\/span> ch\u00fang ta<\/span>. \u00dd ngh\u0129<\/span> cho r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 th\u00f4 b\u1ea1o<\/span> s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe ch\u1ecbu hi\u1ec3u ph\u00e1t xu\u1ea5t t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t t\u00e2m th\u1ee9c<\/span> v\u00f4 minh<\/span>. S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt<\/span>, ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef<\/span> l\u1ed7 m\u00e3ng ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn<\/span> s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/span> v\u00e0 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i<\/span>. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng d\u00f9ng nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi l\u1ed7 m\u00e3ng \u0111\u1ec3 bu\u1ed9c ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, h\u1ecd thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c<\/span> \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> nh\u1eefng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn<\/span> c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb gi\u1eef im l\u1eb7ng<\/span> v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/span> khi b\u1ecb cha m\u1eb9<\/span> la r\u1ea7y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c<\/span>, nh\u01b0ng s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt<\/span>, s\u1ef1 im l\u1eb7ng<\/span> c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea3n kh\u00e1ng m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd, n\u00f3i l\u00ean s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9<\/span>. Ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef<\/span> l\u1ed7 m\u00e3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111em \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c<\/span> th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n<\/span> t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 m\u00e2u thu\u1ea9n.<\/p>\n

T\u00e2m l\u00fd<\/span> h\u1ecdc hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ea1i<\/span> gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch<\/span> r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 n\u00f3ng gi\u1eadn, t\u00e1c nh\u00e2n<\/span> th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y<\/span> ph\u00eda sau c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> l\u1ed7 m\u00e3ng, l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/span> tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng \u0111e d\u1ecda<\/span>. N\u00f3i l\u1eddi gi\u1eadn d\u1eef<\/span> l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt \u0111\u1ec3 tri\u1ec7t ti\u00eau<\/span> ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i \u0111e d\u1ecda<\/span>, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> s\u1ef1 m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn<\/span>. Ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef<\/span>, gi\u1ecdng \u0111i\u1ec7u hung d\u1eef bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9<\/span> m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng. C\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c<\/span> r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i \u0111ang t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng m\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c<\/span> t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7<\/span> nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe v\u1ec1 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i. \u00cdt ai khoan th\u1ee9 v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng; h\u1ecd t\u1ef1 v\u1ec7 ho\u1eb7c t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng l\u1ea1i. S\u1ef1 th\u00f4 b\u1ea1o<\/span> \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn b\u1edfi l\u00f2ng t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn \u00edt khi<\/span> \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t trong vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span>.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi cho r\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> h\u00f2a d\u1ecbu ph\u1ea3n \u1ea3nh<\/span> s\u1ef1 y\u1ebfu nh\u01b0\u1ee3c, v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng<\/span>. S\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u sai l\u1ea1c<\/span> n\u1ea7y b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb vi\u1ec7c hi\u1ec3u sai khi cho r\u1eb1ng \u00f4n h\u00f2a<\/span> l\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng hay nh\u00fat nh\u00e1t. Tuy nhi\u00ean<\/span> l\u1eddi l\u1ebd \u00f4n h\u00f2a<\/span> kh\u00f4ng n\u1eb1m trong \u00fd ngh\u0129a<\/span> \u0111\u00f3. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n d\u00f9ng l\u1eddi l\u1ebd \u00f4n h\u00f2a<\/span>, nh\u01b0ng ng\u00e0i c\u0169ng th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> c\u1ee9ng r\u1eafn, d\u1ee9t kh\u00f3at l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft<\/span>. L\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> th\u00f4 b\u1ea1o<\/span> l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u00e1i c\u1ef1c<\/span> v\u00e0 y\u1ebfu nh\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0 th\u00e1i c\u1ef1c<\/span> kia. Theo \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span>, ch\u00fang ta<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng<\/span> \u1edf trong m\u1ed9t th\u00e1i c\u1ef1c<\/span> n\u00e0o v\u00e0 v\u1eabn c\u00f3<\/span> th\u1ec3 d\u00f9ng nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi l\u1ebd d\u1ee9t kho\u00e1t<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1ea9n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3<\/span>.<\/p>\n

Trong Dhammapada (Ph\u00e1p C\u00fa<\/span>), \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> khuy\u00ean n\u00ean ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t<\/span> l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span>, tr\u00e1nh nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn. (8) Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9<\/span> \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng thu\u1eadn<\/span> l\u1ee3i trong vi\u1ec7c h\u00f3a gi\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn<\/span> b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span> trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y<\/span> c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta<\/span>.<\/p>\n

4. Nh\u1eafm V\u00e0o Nh\u1eefng Hi\u1ec7u Qu\u1ea3<\/span> T\u00edch C\u1ef1c<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110i xa h\u01a1n<\/span>, ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1eadt<\/span> c\u00f2n gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch<\/span> r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i c\u1ea7n t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o m\u1eb7t t\u00edch c\u1ef1c<\/span> trong gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p<\/span> gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span>. S\u1ef1 t\u1eadp trung n\u1ea7y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111em l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u1edbn trong vi\u1ec7c h\u00f3a gi\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn<\/span> gi\u1eefa nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7<\/span> g\u1ea7n g\u0169i. Theo ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span>, ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i c\u1ea7n lu\u00f4n t\u00e2m ni\u1ec7m<\/span> \u201cT\u00f4i s\u1ebd n\u00f3i v\u00ec s\u1ef1 l\u1ee3i \u00edch<\/span> cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe.\u201d Th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9<\/span> n\u00e0y <\/span>c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i g\u1ee3i l\u00ean hai \u0111i\u1ec3m. Th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t, ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i c\u1ea7n bi\u1ebft r\u00f5 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c<\/span> c\u1ee7a gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p<\/span>. Th\u1ee9 hai, ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i c\u1ea7n gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch<\/span> th\u1ea5u \u0111\u00e1o cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/span> c\u1ee7a gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p<\/span> \u0111\u00f3.<\/span><\/p>\n

C\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> m\u00e2u thu\u1eabn<\/span> n\u1ea7y n\u00f3i l\u00ean s\u1ef1 vi\u00eac r\u1eb1ng ch\u1ec9 ph\u00ea b\u00ecnh<\/span> m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe th\u00ec s\u1ebd th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u00ecm l\u1ed7i c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00ea ph\u00e1n. Nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y<\/span> th\u00f3i quen<\/span> nguy h\u1ea1i \u0111\u00f3, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> d\u1ea1y: \u201cM\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n ph\u00ea ph\u00e1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf<\/span> m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n<\/span> ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt<\/span>.\u201d (9) <\/p>\n

Khi nh\u1eadn ra<\/span> \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u01a1 th\u00fac \u0111\u1ea9y<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i, theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng<\/span>, ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3n b\u00e1c nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi ph\u00ea b\u00ecnh<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i. V\u1edbi m\u1ed9t h\u01b0\u1edbng gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb s\u1eb5n, ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe ch\u00fa \u00fd l\u1eafng nghe.<\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng<\/span> r\u00e0nh m\u1ea1ch<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3<\/span> t\u00edch c\u1ef1c<\/span> c\u1ee7a gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p<\/span> thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c<\/span> ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> c\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span>. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i c\u1ea7n gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch<\/span> cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe l\u00fd do<\/span> v\u00ec sao v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span>, v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u sai l\u1ea1c<\/span> vi\u1ec7c ph\u00ea b\u00ecnh<\/span> x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng<\/span> khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i r\u00f5 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch<\/span> v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c<\/span> trong nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ecb c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.

5. N\u00f3i V\u1edbi L\u00f2ng T\u1eeb<\/span> Bi<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

Sau c\u00f9ng, l\u00f2ng t\u1eeb<\/span> bi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn to\u00e0n b\u1ed9<\/span> ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span>, l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean<\/span> v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p<\/span> ph\u00e1t xu\u1ea5t t\u1eeb l\u00f2ng t\u1eeb<\/span> bi th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u1ec5 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/span> nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span>. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i n\u00ean t\u00e2m nguy\u1ec7n<\/span> r\u1eb1ng \u201cT\u00f4i nguy\u1ec7n n\u00f3i v\u1edbi l\u00f2ng t\u1eeb<\/span> bi, kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi l\u00f2ng t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn.\u201d (10) <\/p>\n

B\u1ed1n ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u1edf tr\u00ean \u2013 \u0111\u00fang th\u1eddi, ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n<\/span>, s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng<\/span> ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef<\/span> \u00f4n nhu, v\u00e0 nh\u1eafm v\u00e0o l\u1ee3i \u00edch<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe \u2013 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> thu\u1ed9c ph\u1ea1m vi<\/span> h\u00f9ng bi\u1ec7n, \u1edf b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i. T\u1eeb bi<\/span>, thu\u1ed9c t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, \u1edf b\u00ean trong v\u00e0 d\u0129 nhi\u00ean<\/span> l\u00e0 thi\u1ebft y\u1ebfu.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> h\u00f9ng bi\u1ec7n b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft<\/span> nh\u01b0ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch h\u1ee3p<\/span> trong vi\u1ec7c s\u1eefa \u0111\u1ed5i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n<\/span>. S\u1ef1 nguy hi\u1ec3m n\u1eb1m \u1edf ch\u1ed7 ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 \u201cthi\u1ebfu t\u1ea5m l\u00f2ng\u201d n\u01a1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i. C\u00e2u \u201cT\u00f4i th\u01b0\u01a1ng anh do \u0111\u00f3 t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n anh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p\u201d c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh<\/span> l\u1edbn trong vi\u1ec7c \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span> m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi, nh\u01b0ng s\u1ef1 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf kh\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> c\u00f2n c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh<\/span> l\u1edbn lao h\u01a1n. <\/p>\n

\u0110\u00f4i khi ch\u00fang ta<\/span> c\u1ea7n t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 \u00fd h\u01b0\u1edbng<\/span> c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta<\/span> khi n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi<\/span> kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Ph\u1ea3i ch\u0103ng<\/span> c\u00f3 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng<\/span> t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 trong vi\u00eac ch\u0103m s\u00f3c gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi, hay m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 g\u00ec kh\u00e1c \u0111ang gi\u1ee1 tr\u00f2? V\u00ec sao m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 hay ch\u1ed3ng lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia v\u1ec1 l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span> m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o ra trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9? V\u00ec sao ch\u00fang ta<\/span> lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n s\u1eeda sai<\/span> m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3? Nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c n\u1ea7y c\u1ea7n quan s\u00e1t<\/span> k\u1ef9 l\u01b0\u1ee1ng. M\u1ed9t h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng s\u1ebd c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a<\/span> v\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 n\u1ebfu n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u1edfi \u0111\u1ed9ng b\u1eb1ng l\u00f2ng t\u1eeb<\/span> bi.<\/p>\n

Nh\u1eefng Ngo\u1ea1i L\u1ec7<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

N\u0103m b\u01b0\u1edbc gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> trong truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng<\/span> Ph\u1eadt gi\u00e1o<\/span> kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng thu\u1ed1c to\u00e0n h\u1ea3o cho m\u1ecdi xung \u0111\u1ed9t<\/span> gi\u1eefa ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ch\u00fang \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o, thi\u1ec7n x\u1ea3o<\/span>, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng xung \u0111\u1ed9t<\/span> m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3<\/span>, nh\u01b0ng l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u1ecdai l\u1ec7. Khi ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span> tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y hi\u1ec7u n\u0103ng<\/span> c\u1ee7a n\u0103m ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> n\u1ea7y, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> n\u00eau l\u00ean m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec3m quan tr\u1ecdng: \u201cL\u1ea1i n\u1eefa, X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span>, d\u00f9 \u00f4ng theo n\u0103m ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i n\u00e0y<\/span>, v\u1eabn c\u00f2n m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng t\u00e1n \u0111\u1ed3ng nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u00f4ng n\u00f3i.\u201d (11).<\/span><\/p>\n

L\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/span> n\u00e0y <\/span>ph\u1ea3n \u1ea3nh<\/span> c\u00e1i th\u1ea5y s\u00e2u xa<\/span> c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> r\u1eb1ng n\u0103m ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> \u1edf tr\u00ean kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi xung \u0111\u1ed9t<\/span> gi\u1eefa con ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/span>, v\u00e0 theo \u0111\u00f3, ng\u00e0i b\u1ea3o X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span> gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch<\/span> v\u00ec sao c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi qu\u00e1 c\u1ee9ng c\u1ecfi v\u00e0 l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i tr\u1ecb<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi<\/span> Ph\u1eadt, ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span> th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn<\/span> c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n ph\u1ea3n kh\u00e1ng d\u00f9 n\u0103m ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o trong \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111em ra \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng<\/span>; v\u00e0 ng\u00e0i n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng s\u1edf tri ch\u01b0\u1edbng<\/span> \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t l\u00fd do<\/span> t\u1ea1o ra ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/span> n\u01a1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> khen ng\u1ee3i ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span> v\u00e0 khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch ng\u00e0i ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ea1y \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m l\u1ee3i l\u1ea1c<\/span> cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng l\u1eafng nghe. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng ch\u00fa \u00fd l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i m\u00e0 ng\u00e0i X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span> tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y gi\u00fap gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> nh\u1eefng xung \u0111\u1ed9t<\/span> trong tinh th\u1ea7n<\/span> h\u00f2a b\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

N\u00f3i Th\u00eam V\u1ec1 S\u1ef1 Kh\u00e9o L\u00e9o Trong Vi\u1ec7c Trao \u0110\u1ed5i<\/span><\/span>

1. Tr\u00e1nh Tranh Lu\u1eadn<\/span> Nh\u1eefng V\u1ea5n \u0110\u1ec1<\/span> Nh\u1ea1y C\u1ea3m<\/span><\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3m thi\u1ec3u<\/span> t\u1ed1i \u0111a nh\u1eefng xung \u0111\u1ed9t<\/span> trong quan h\u1ec7, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> khuy\u00ean ch\u00fang ta<\/span> n\u00ean tr\u00e1nh tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m<\/span>. Nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> n\u00e0y <\/span>bao g\u1ed3m<\/span> nh\u1eefng \u00fd ni\u1ec7m<\/span> c\u00f3 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch<\/span> \u1ee9c \u0111o\u00e1n<\/span>, nh\u1eefng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m<\/span> v\u00e0 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span> kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u01a1 s\u1edf khoa h\u1ecdc. Ng\u00e0i n\u00f3i r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng<\/span> r\u1eb1ng cu\u1ed9c tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> nh\u01b0 v\u1eady thu\u1eddng ch\u1ec9 t\u1ea1o n\u00ean s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed1i kh\u00e1ng<\/span> thay v\u00ec \u0111em \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 nh\u1ea5t tr\u00ed<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u1ef1 trao \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> gi\u1eefa \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> v\u00e0 Kassapa, m\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 tu kh\u1ed5 h\u1ea1nh<\/span> thu\u1ed9c m\u1ed9t h\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng<\/span> t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span> kh\u00e1c, n\u00f3i l\u00ean \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y<\/span>. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> gi\u1eef m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 g\u1ea7n g\u0169i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng v\u1ecb th\u1ea7y trong nh\u1eefng t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o<\/span> kh\u00e1c, th\u01b0\u1eddng vi\u1ebfng th\u0103m h\u1ecd v\u00e0 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c trao \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> th\u00e2n m\u1eadt<\/span> v\u1edbi h\u1ecd. Trong cu\u1ed9c trao \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> v\u1edbi Kassapa, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> khuy\u1ebfn c\u00e1o ch\u1ec9 n\u00ean \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> m\u00e0 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m<\/span> chia s\u1ebb, tr\u00e1nh nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> gay g\u1eaft<\/span>. (12) M\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch<\/span> c\u1ee7a c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 gi\u1eef m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh<\/span> gi\u1eefa ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00f3i v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe.<\/span><\/p>\n

Khi c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00eau ra nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ebf nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m<\/span>, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> \u0111\u00f4i khi gi\u1eef im l\u1eb7ng<\/span>. Im l\u1eb7ng<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n<\/span> l\u00e0 t\u1ea1o ra k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c<\/span> trong vi\u1ec7c tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span>. V\u00e0 \u0111\u00f4i khi \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> kh\u00f4ng do d\u1ef1<\/span> t\u00e1n \u0111\u1ed3ng nh\u1eefng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m<\/span> kh\u00e1c. Ng\u00e0i coi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n s\u1ef1 tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> kh\u00f4ng \u0111em \u0111\u1ebfn k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u00edch c\u1ef1c<\/span> n\u00e0o c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 ng\u00e0i tr\u00e1nh tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> si\u00eau h\u00ecnh. <\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u n\u1ea7y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n<\/span> tr\u00e1nh n\u00e9 tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span>, c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ng\u00e0i b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eeb \u0111\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span>. Trong nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p<\/span>, ng\u00e0i \u0111\u00e3 tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch h\u00f9ng h\u1ed3n v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/span>, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t giai c\u1ea5p<\/span>. Trong Digha Nikaya I, ch\u00fang ta<\/span> th\u1ea5y ghi l\u1ea1i nhi\u1ec1u cu\u1ed9c tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> \u0111\u1ea7y thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c<\/span> c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span>. Nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> n\u1ea7y cho th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng l\u00fd l\u1ebd \u0111\u1ea7y thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c<\/span> ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i<\/span> nh\u1eefng tin t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span> v\u00e0 th\u00f3i t\u1ee5c sai l\u1ea7m<\/span> v\u00e0 g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n h\u1ea1i<\/span> trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/span>. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng tin t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span> v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh<\/span> nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m<\/span> c\u00f3 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch<\/span> c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n<\/span>, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> cho r\u1eb1ng tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 v\u00f4 \u00edch<\/span> v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n h\u1ea1i<\/span> cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n

Ng\u00e0y nay, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span> v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh<\/span> v\u1ec1 t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o<\/span>, ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb v\u00e0 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/span> thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng nh\u00f3m n\u00e0y<\/span>. N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 theo hai t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o<\/span> kh\u00e1c nhau tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> v\u1ec1 ni\u1ec1m tin<\/span> t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o<\/span>, s\u1ef1 quan h\u1ec7 s\u1ebd b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng<\/span> r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u. T\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1<\/span>, hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n ph\u00ea ph\u00e1n nhau v\u1ec1 th\u00f3i quen<\/span> x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd m\u1edf ra con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng<\/span> \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng<\/span> v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ec3 gi\u1eef m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/span>, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> khuy\u00ean ch\u00fang ta<\/span> n\u00ean tr\u00e1nh tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. Ng\u00e0i cho th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng trong khi nh\u1eefng tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span> h\u1ee3p l\u00fd<\/span> l\u1ebd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft<\/span> \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng tin t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span> v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng g\u00e2y ra nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3<\/span> x\u1ea5u, h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng ni\u1ec1m tin<\/span> t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o<\/span> v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng th\u00f3i quen<\/span> x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/span> \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u00edch. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p<\/span> n\u00e0y, thay v\u00ec tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span>, s\u1ef1 ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng<\/span> l\u1eabn nhau.<\/p>\n

2. \u00dd Th\u1ee9c<\/span> R\u1eb1ng C\u00f3 M\u1ed9t S\u1ed1 C\u00e1ch C\u01b0 X\u1eed<\/span> Kh\u00f4ng Th\u1ec3 Thay \u0110\u1ed5i<\/b><\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ec3 gi\u1eef m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh<\/span>, ch\u00fang ta<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 m\u1eb7t kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i trong c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta<\/span>. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y<\/span> r\u1eb1ng h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft con ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/span> \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 y\u1ebfu k\u00e9m<\/span> b\u00ean trong. Ng\u00e0i n\u00f3i \u201cNg\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee9ng b\u1ec7nh trong t\u00e2m th\u1eadt hi\u1ebfm th\u1ea5y.\u201d (13) M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee9ng b\u1ec7nh n\u1ea7y l\u00e0 \u201ckh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra<\/span>, ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span>, v\u00e0 ch\u1ecbu s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.\u201d (14) <\/p>\n

\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi, c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng<\/span> s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ch\u1ec9 \u0111em l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng<\/span> v\u00e0 m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi<\/span>. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> cho th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t<\/span> t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean<\/span> l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/span> b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn, \u00e1c t\u00e2m<\/span> v\u00e0 g\u00e2y h\u1ea5n<\/span> \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean<\/span> x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng<\/span> v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed<\/span> c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. (15)<\/p>\n

Trong ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh<\/span> \u0111\u00f3, c\u00e1ch hay nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i tuy r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span>, m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ea7n t\u1ef1 s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh thay v\u00ec bu\u1ed9c ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span>. C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9<\/span> kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu kh\u00f4ng g\u00e2y ra nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i \u0111e d\u1ecda<\/span> tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng<\/span> cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p<\/span> kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span>, s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> c\u00f3 v\u1ebb th\u1ef1c ti\u1ec5n<\/span> h\u01a1n l\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng<\/span> s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span>.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> c\u0169ng nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf ch\u00fang ta<\/span> r\u1eb1ng t\u1ef1 s\u1eeda m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec1n tr\u00ed. S\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 s\u1eeda nh\u01b0 v\u1eady c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m \u0111i nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng vui<\/span> trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Ch\u00fang ta<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n khi mu\u1ed1n s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c theo \u00fd mu\u1ed1n<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> \u00fd ngh\u0129<\/span> v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 th\u00edch h\u1ee3p<\/span> v\u1edbi th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Ch\u00fang ta<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u00e8n luy\u1ec7n<\/span> m\u1ed9t t\u00e2m th\u1ee9c<\/span> t\u1ec9nh t\u00e1o<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> v\u00e0 khoan th\u1ee9 khi \u0111\u00f3n nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111e d\u1ecda<\/span> \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, t\u1eeb ngu\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung.<\/p>\n

Khuynh hu\u1edbng gi\u1eef im l\u1eb7ng<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng mu\u1ed1n b\u00e0y t\u1ecf c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed<\/span> \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi s\u1ef1 khoan dung<\/span> v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span>. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mu\u1ed1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng nghe v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng<\/span> trong khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng mu\u1ed1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf nh\u1eefng \u00fd ngh\u0129<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n<\/span>. Tuy nhi\u00ean<\/span>, n\u1ebfu m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u hi\u1ec3u b\u1ea3n t\u00ednh<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia thay v\u00ec c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng<\/span> thay \u0111\u1ed5i. <\/p>\n

Lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n than phi\u1ec1n<\/span> v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng hay t\u00ednh t\u1ef1 bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng<\/span> m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn<\/span>, khoan dung<\/span> v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> s\u1ebd l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m m\u1ed1i b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span> trong quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n

3. T\u1ea1o C\u01a1 H\u1ed9i S\u1eeda \u0110\u1ed5i<\/span><\/b>
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\u0110\u1ea1o Ph\u1eadt<\/span> tin v\u00e0o kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng bi\u1ebft tha th\u1ee9<\/span> v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/span>. Ch\u00fang ta<\/span> ai c\u0169ng c\u00f3 l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span>. \u0110\u00f4i khi ch\u00fang ta<\/span> t\u1ea1o ra nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span> tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng<\/span> c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span> \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta<\/span>. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n khuy\u00ean \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eed<\/span> bi\u1ebft tha th\u1ee9<\/span> nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span> v\u00e0 t\u1ea1o c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span> cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi g\u00e2y l\u1ed7i. C\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed<\/span> n\u1ea7y s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng<\/span> m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 g\u1eafn b\u00f3<\/span> h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

L\u1eddi khuy\u00ean<\/span> n\u00e0y <\/span>kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i qu\u00ean h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span> tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, hay nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span> qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ecb k\u1ebft \u00e1n<\/span> l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ebb x\u1ea5u \u00e1c c\u1ed1 h\u1eefu v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh<\/span>. Ch\u00fang ta<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi<\/span> t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m<\/span> c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta<\/span>. Ch\u00fang ta<\/span> c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn h\u00f3a<\/span>, v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua<\/span> qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9<\/span> kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/span> h\u01a1n:<\/span><\/p>\n

C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfng nh\u00e1c<\/span> trong kh\u1ee9, tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u1ea3nh gi\u00e1c<\/span> v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9<\/span>. H\u1ecd l\u00e0m s\u00e1ng th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi<\/span> gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 m\u1eb7t tr\u0103ng<\/span> khi ra kh\u1ecfi \u0111\u00e1m m\u00e2y<\/span>. (16) <\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> t\u1ecf ra<\/span> r\u1ea5t tin t\u01b0\u1edfng<\/span> kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9<\/span> c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/span>. V\u00e0 t\u1ea1o cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn kh\u00f4n ngoan trong vi\u1ec7c h\u00f3a gi\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a<\/span>.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn n\u00e0y <\/span>c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn th\u00edch h\u1ee3p<\/span> trong vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m<\/span> s\u00e2u \u0111\u1eadm m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c. Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng ng\u01b0\u1eddi chung s\u1ed1ng trung th\u00e0nh<\/span> nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng<\/span>. S\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t t\u00edn<\/span> kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn<\/span> trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/span> c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00e0ng y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia th\u00ec c\u00e0ng b\u1ecb phi\u1ec1n mu\u1ed9n<\/span> nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n khi kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1<\/span> ra \u0111i\u1ec1u tu\u1ed9t ra ngo\u00e0i k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. N\u1ec1n v\u0103n h\u00f3a<\/span> c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta<\/span> khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch ch\u00fang ta<\/span> d\u00e0y v\u00f2 \u201cng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 t\u1ed9i\u201d m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00e0n nh\u1eabn. Tuy nhi\u00ean<\/span>, khi ch\u00fang ta<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang ta<\/span> mi\u1ec7t m\u00e0i<\/span> trong o\u00e1n gi\u1eadn, ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn<\/span> ch\u00fang ta<\/span> s\u1ebd ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t<\/span> m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 trong \u0111au \u0111\u1edbn<\/span>. M\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o l\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia hi\u1ec3u r\u00f5<\/span> h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t<\/span> l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 cho ph\u00e9p<\/span> th\u1eddi gian<\/span> s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span>.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ph\u00e1i l\u00e0 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng m\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea5t n\u01a1i con ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/span>. Ng\u00e0i n\u00f3i: \u201cTa kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn, \u00e2m thanh<\/span>, m\u00f9i, v\u1ecb, x\u00fac ch\u1ea1m n\u00e0o l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n<\/span> tr\u00e1i tim c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng h\u01a1n ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef<\/span>.\u201d (17) M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1eef c\u0169ng b\u1ecb ng\u01b0\u1eddi nam l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n<\/span> nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. (18) <\/p>\n

Vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean<\/span>. Tuy nhi\u00ean<\/span>, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/span> c\u0169ng ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n m\u1ed9t l\u1ed1i t\u01b0 duy<\/span> th\u1ef1c ti\u1ec5n<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i<\/span> nh\u1eefng khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng<\/span>. Khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ban cho<\/span> c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u ra nh\u1eefng l\u1ee3i \u00edch<\/span> c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf<\/span> v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng th\u00f4i th\u00fac<\/span> b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng<\/span>. S\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft<\/span> \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap con ng\u01b0\u1eddi<\/span> s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa<\/span> nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m<\/span> l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n h\u1ea1i<\/span> m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft<\/span>.<\/p>\n

B\u01b0\u1edbc quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1eeda m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 th\u00eam g\u1eafn b\u00f3<\/span> l\u00e0 \u201cnh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span> nh\u01b0 n\u00f3 l\u00e0, ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m<\/span>, v\u00e0 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> kh\u00f4ng t\u00e1i ph\u1ea1m<\/span>.\u201d (19) Khi ch\u00fang ta<\/span> th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n<\/span> \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u1ea7y, ch\u00fang ta<\/span> \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 pandita, ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec1n tr\u00ed.<\/p>\n

4. T\u00ecm M\u1ed9t Cu\u1ed9c Chia Tay H\u00e0i H\u00f2a
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Trong m\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 ngo\u1ea1i l\u1ec7. Tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m<\/span> v\u00e0 b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn, kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o trong trao \u0111\u1ed5i<\/span>, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng k\u1ef9 thu\u1eadt kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ec7n<\/span> l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 tri\u1ec7t ti\u00eau<\/span>, nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1ea9n trong m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng<\/span> ch\u00e2n th\u1eadt<\/span>, m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span>. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> d\u1ea1y g\u00ec v\u1ec1 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng vui<\/span> v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ai mu\u1ed1n <\/span>n\u00e0y<\/span>? Ng\u00e0i d\u1ea1y g\u00ec cho \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eed<\/span> v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n g\u1ea7n g\u0169i v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh?<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do<\/span> \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t<\/span> ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng<\/span> m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7: ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia c\u1ee9 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c<\/span> nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi<\/span> sai tr\u00e1i<\/span> kh\u00f4ng k\u00ecm ch\u1ebf, c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 nguy hi\u1ec3m do m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 g\u00e2y ra, nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y<\/span> m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 v\u00f4 \u00edch<\/span> trong vi\u1ec7c k\u00e9o d\u00e0i m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Trong m\u1ed7i tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p<\/span> v\u1eeba n\u00eau, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> quy\u1ec1n ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n<\/span> trong s\u1ef1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span>. Ng\u00e0i khuy\u00ean \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eed<\/span> r\u00fat lui kh\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch h\u1ee3p<\/span> nh\u01b0 v\u1ecb vua r\u00fat kh\u1ecfi v\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ea5t b\u1ecb chi\u1ebfm. (20) <\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean<\/span>, s\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/span> t\u1ef1 do<\/span> c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n<\/span> <\/p>\n

<\/span>n\u00e0y <\/span>kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 t\u00e1n \u0111\u1ed3ng nh\u1eefng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> v\u1ed9i v\u00e0ng<\/span>, s\u1eaft \u0111\u00e1, kh\u00f4ng h\u00e0i h\u00f2a; thay v\u00ec v\u1eady<\/span>, nh\u1eefng s\u1ef1 c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc<\/span> h\u1ee3p l\u00fd<\/span> v\u00e0 h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c<\/span> ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t ra tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> sau c\u00f9ng. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn<\/span> r\u1eb1ng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd \u0111em \u0111\u1ebfn l\u1ee3i \u00edch<\/span>, thay v\u00ec s\u1ebd \u0111em \u0111\u1ebfn k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 tr\u00e1i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c, cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan<\/span> trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, k\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<\/span> ng\u01b0\u1eddi quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span>. Ai c\u0169ng c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t<\/span> m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u1ebfu quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> \u0111\u00fang chu\u1ea9n m\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n

L\u1eddi khuy\u00ean<\/span> c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> v\u1edbi Upali (\u01afu Ba Li<\/span>), m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eed<\/span> c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a gi\u00e1o ch\u1ee7<\/span> K\u1ef3 Na Gi\u00e1o<\/span> l\u00e0 Mahavira, ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf<\/span> vi\u1ec7c n\u1ea7y. Theo y\u00eau c\u1ea7u<\/span> c\u1ee7a th\u1ea7y, Upali \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1ed7 \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 tranh lu\u1eadn<\/span>. Tuy nhi\u00ean<\/span> sau khi nghe \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span>, Upali nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y<\/span> gi\u00e1o ph\u00e1p<\/span> c\u1ee7a Ph\u1eadt c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb<\/span> h\u01a1n c\u1ee7a Mahavira v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh<\/span> \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eed<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0i. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> n\u00f3i: \u201c\u00d4ng n\u00ean suy ngh\u0129<\/span> th\u00eam v\u1ec1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng; \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e1ng t\u00f4n k\u00ednh<\/span> nh\u01b0 \u00f4ng, t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n<\/span> l\u00e0 suy ngh\u0129<\/span> v\u00e0 th\u1ea9m \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> v\u1ec1 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.\u201d (21) <\/p>\n

Sau khi Upali th\u01b0a v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> r\u1eb1ng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 \u0111u\u1ee3c c\u00e2n nh\u1eafc<\/span> k\u1ef9 l\u01b0\u1ee1ng, \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> cho ph\u00e9p<\/span> \u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eddi b\u1ecf Mahavira v\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh<\/span> \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eed<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0i. S\u1ef1 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn<\/span> c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n<\/span> c\u00f3 suy ngh\u0129<\/span> ch\u00edn ch\u1eafn<\/span> v\u00e0 h\u1ee3p l\u00fd<\/span> c\u1ee7a Upali l\u00e0 t\u00e1c nh\u00e2n<\/span> ch\u00ednh y\u1ebfu<\/span> \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh<\/span> c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng.<\/p>\n

Vi\u1ec7c n\u1ea7y c\u0169ng \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng<\/span> \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00e1c. Trong th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span>, c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi nam c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 n\u1eef \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh<\/span> mu\u1ed1n t\u1eeb b\u1ecf<\/span> ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u00f4n ph\u1ed1i<\/span>, s\u1ed1ng c\u00e1ch bi\u1ec7t<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh<\/span> ph\u1ea1m h\u1ea1nh<\/span>. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd ng\u0103n c\u1ea3n<\/span> n\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 tu h\u00e0nh<\/span> c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ea1i<\/span> \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng<\/span> c\u1ee7a ngu\u1eddi c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i h\u1ecd. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> khuy\u00ean Ugga, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00e0u c\u00f3<\/span>, chu c\u1ea5p<\/span> v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f9m b\u1ecdc nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi r\u1eddi xa h\u1ecd. (22) <\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd cho r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1eeb b\u1ecf<\/span> v\u1ee3 hay ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng th\u00fa vui kh\u00e1c. Tuy nhi\u00ean<\/span>, ng\u00e0i n\u00f3i r\u00f5 r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c chia tay h\u00e0i h\u00f2a kh\u1ecfi m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7<\/span> kh\u00f4ng v\u1eeba \u00fd<\/span> c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n<\/span> l\u00e0 c\u1ee9 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c<\/span>.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean<\/span> cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi sau khi chia tay ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung hay b\u1ea1n h\u1eefu. Cu\u1ed9c n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0i v\u1edbi Kesi, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n ng\u1ef1a, cho ch\u00fang ta<\/span> th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i<\/span> t\u1eeb b\u1ecf<\/span> s\u1ef1 o\u00e1n gh\u00e9t v\u00e0 th\u00f9 h\u1eb1n<\/span> \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung ng\u00e0y x\u01b0a<\/span> d\u00f9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o ra nh\u1eefng \u0111au bu\u1ed3n phi\u1ec1n<\/span> mu\u1ed9n trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. Kesi n\u00f3i v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> r\u1eb1ng \u00f4ng s\u1ebd gi\u1ebft nh\u1eefng con ng\u1ef1a kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n h\u1ee3p t\u00e1c<\/span> trong vi\u1ec7c hu\u1ea5n luy\u1ec7n. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> n\u00f3i v\u1edbi Kesi r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u00e0i, ng\u00e0i kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m<\/span> \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 thu\u1ea7n th\u1ee5c<\/span> hay kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu h\u1ee3p t\u00e1c<\/span>. (23) <\/p>\n

Trong gi\u00e1o ph\u00e1p<\/span> c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span>, s\u1ef1 theo \u0111u\u1ed5i<\/span> h\u1eadn th\u00f9<\/span> kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch ngay c\u1ea3 khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ecb l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng<\/span> hay b\u1ecb l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng<\/span> trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> d\u1ea1y r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y<\/span> b\u00ecnh an<\/span> khi v\u1eabn c\u00f2n v\u01b0\u1edbn m\u1eafc trong nh\u1eefng sai qu\u1ea5y c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9<\/span>. (24) <\/p>\n

D\u0129 nhi\u00ean<\/span> c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/span> th\u00edch h\u1ee3p<\/span> tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi<\/span> sai tr\u00e1i<\/span>, nh\u01b0ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y, \u0111eo \u0111\u1eb3ng ch\u1ea1y theo<\/span> s\u1ef1 o\u00e1n h\u1eadn<\/span> ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0m tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng<\/span> th\u00eam n\u1ed7i \u0111au do m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac<\/span> g\u00e2y ra. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m cho cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd kh\u1ed5 \u0111au v\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu tho\u00e1t ra kh\u1ecfi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1, trong khi h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y<\/span> s\u1ef1 h\u00e0i h\u00f2a trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch bi\u1ebft tha th\u1ee9<\/span> v\u00e0 qu\u00ean \u0111i.<\/p>\n

K\u1ebft Lu\u1eadn<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec7 t\u1eed<\/span> c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0i l\u00e0 X\u00e1 L\u1ee3i Ph\u1ea5t<\/span> \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb<\/span> \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch h\u00f2a b\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng m\u00e2u thu\u1ea9n trong c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng<\/span> T\u0103ng gi\u00e0<\/span>. Nh\u1eefng h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn <\/p>\n

<\/span>n\u00e0y <\/span>c\u0169ng \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng<\/span> hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3<\/span> cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung trong nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i<\/span> kh\u00e1c. <\/p>\n

Trau d\u1ed3i s\u1ef1 kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o trong giao ti\u1ebfp, ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed<\/span> kh\u00f4n kh\u00e9o l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft<\/span> cho m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau<\/span> <\/p>\n

<\/span>n\u00e0y<\/span>. \u0110\u1ee9c Ph\u1eadt<\/span> nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh<\/span> r\u1eb1ng h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1<\/span> x\u1ea3y ra trong m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7<\/span> g\u1ea7n g\u0169i \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/span> b\u1eb3ng nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p<\/span> ng\u00e0i n\u00eau ra. <\/p>\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean<\/span> v\u1eabn c\u00f3<\/span> m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft<\/span> d\u00f9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong cu\u1ed9c h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c<\/span> c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng<\/span>. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p<\/span> <\/p>\n

<\/span>n\u00e0y<\/span>, chia tay c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p<\/span> t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i ph\u00f3ng<\/span> nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong cu\u1ed9c tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi<\/span> g\u00e1nh n\u1eb7ng<\/span> c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng xung \u0111\u1ed9t<\/span>. S\u1ef1 chia tay kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch tr\u1ea3 th\u00f9<\/span>, nh\u01b0ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111em l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/span> cho m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c li\u00ean quan<\/span> trong trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7.

Bhikkhu Basnagoda Rahula – Th\u1ecb Gi\u1edbi d\u1ecbch<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

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